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Dear Harry,
I’m mad too. Or should I say Bernadette. Because I love how you highlighted the fact that
male voices seem to rise louder. When we speak as women we are automatically starting from
behind. Dismissed so often as emotional or irrational. I’ve yet to see a more egregious example
of this than what is currently happening to a pair of moms and three sweet girls. They are being
abused and neglected by an absolute menace of a man. These two moms are each his ex and
share children with him. The school, friends, parents, family, friends, and the moms have called
CPS and the police. One child spoke out at school. The school called the police and cps. The
girls stayed elsewhere that night with the police advising the father to wait for cps the next day.
Instead he sent his mommy to remove them from school in the late morning. One child called
the police. Screaming and crying in fear that he was going to harm her for telling. The police
laughed along with him at her “hysterics”, the Sgt in charge angrily refused to call her a victims
advocate, and ultimately helped trick her into the vehicle by assuring them that she would be
returned safely to school. She wasn’t. She was grounded for a month. Her communication has
been restricted and heavily monitored ever since. Not that it matters.
When he allegedly admitted to a cps investigator only a couple of weeks ago that minutes
prior to her arriving he had held his fist to her face and threatened to punch her in the face if she
didn’t shut up and told her blatantly he did not care and would hit her even if she was going to
come through the door in any minute. The cps investigator Gabriella Lopez allegedly told this
preteen girl that it was a reasonable reaction to what she did. What did she do? She hit him with
a blanket and according to Gabriella Lopez that is reasonable because getting hit with a blanket
is frustrating. Gabriella Lopez’s training obviously needs to be updated as I doubt any
reasonable person would agree with that.
Although apparently Detective Tucker with Hewitt Pd might. His investigative prowess
apparently led him to the conclusion that the father was “just a drunk who needs help”. He also
advised one mother that there not being any court orders concerning her toddler didn’t matter.
That her fear for her child’s safety didn’t matter. If she kept her child away from her father she
would be breaking the law and he could arrest her. Just to be clear this is absolutely not true.
The duty to protect your child from danger is the paramount duty. Don’t worry though. We don’t
have to wonder about his motivation. He quite emphatically told me “Can you make a note of
this? I don’t want to testify in court. I don’t want to be called to testify in custody or anything.”
When did protecting children become optional? CPS and law enforcement seem to have
decided that a mother’s concerns aren’t worth their time. Too often, mothers are dismissed as
“overly emotional” or “petty,” while blatant red flags are ignored. Let me tell you what that really
is: laziness, sexism, and a complete failure to do the job they’re paid to do.
When a mother comes forward—begging for help because her child is in danger—she isn’t
being dramatic. She’s being brave. She’s stepping up for her child when no one else will. But
instead of being met with urgency or compassion, she’s met with indifference. And that
indifference puts children in harm’s way.
How many more stories do we have to hear about kids left in abusive homes or worse? This is not a breakdown in the system; it is a refusal to CARE. CPS and law enforcement are supposed to protect the most vulnerable among us if they can’t or won’t do that, they need to be held accountable.
Our children deserve better.
Our mothers deserve better, and the community deserves a system that works for the people it is meant to serve.
Dear Harry,
I’m mad too. Or should I say Bernadette. Because I love how you highlighted the fact that
male voices seem to rise louder. When we speak as women we are automatically starting from
behind. Dismissed so often as emotional or irrational. I’ve yet to see a more egregious example
of this than what is currently happening to a pair of moms and three sweet girls. They are being
abused and neglected by an absolute menace of a man. These two moms are each his ex and
share children with him. The school, friends, parents, family, friends, and the moms have called
CPS and the police. One child spoke out at school. The school called the police and cps. The
girls stayed elsewhere that night with the police advising the father to wait for cps the next day.
Instead he sent his mommy to remove them from school in the late morning. One child called
the police. Screaming and crying in fear that he was going to harm her for telling. The police
laughed along with him at her “hysterics”, the Sgt in charge angrily refused to call her a victims
advocate, and ultimately helped trick her into the vehicle by assuring them that she would be
returned safely to school. She wasn’t. She was grounded for a month. Her communication has
been restricted and heavily monitored ever since. Not that it matters.
When he allegedly admitted to a cps investigator only a couple of weeks ago that minutes
prior to her arriving he had held his fist to her face and threatened to punch her in the face if she
didn’t shut up and told her blatantly he did not care and would hit her even if she was going to
come through the door in any minute. The cps investigator Gabriella Lopez allegedly told this
preteen girl that it was a reasonable reaction to what she did. What did she do? She hit him with
a blanket and according to Gabriella Lopez that is reasonable because getting hit with a blanket
is frustrating. Gabriella Lopez’s training obviously needs to be updated as I doubt any
reasonable person would agree with that.
Although apparently Detective Tucker with Hewitt Pd might. His investigative prowess
apparently led him to the conclusion that the father was “just a drunk who needs help”. He also
advised one mother that there not being any court orders concerning her toddler didn’t matter.
That her fear for her child’s safety didn’t matter. If she kept her child away from her father she
would be breaking the law and he could arrest her. Just to be clear this is absolutely not true.
The duty to protect your child from danger is the paramount duty. Don’t worry though. We don’t
have to wonder about his motivation. He quite emphatically told me “Can you make a note of
this? I don’t want to testify in court. I don’t want to be called to testify in custody or anything.”
When did protecting children become optional? CPS and law enforcement seem to have
decided that a mother’s concerns aren’t worth their time. Too often, mothers are dismissed as
“overly emotional” or “petty,” while blatant red flags are ignored. Let me tell you what that really
is: laziness, sexism, and a complete failure to do the job they’re paid to do.
When a mother comes forward—begging for help because her child is in danger—she isn’t
being dramatic. She’s being brave. She’s stepping up for her child when no one else will. But
instead of being met with urgency or compassion, she’s met with indifference. And that
indifference puts children in harm’s way.
